“Being positive isn’t pretending everything is good, it’s seeing the good in everything!”
I have always had a hard time with unpredictable weather. I think it’s because growing up we couldn’t ever REALLY plan a barbecue or outdoor event for fear of the weather turning and us getting soaked. I have somehow held onto that frustration with weather and realize as the seasons change, especially Winter into Spring, I find myself becoming annoyed, frustrated and sometimes even a little depressed when it snows in March or if Easter is not a sunny day. Crazy…yes I know…but here’s what I have realized:
I don’t like certain things, but whether I like them or not, I have no control over them – and the weather certainly falls into this category! Logically I know that at some point, at least in Utah, Spring is going to arrive and it’s going to be glorious, so getting myself worked up about WHEN is ridiculous, right?
With my personality type, the weather is definitely not the only place that this type of frustration over lack or control shows up. I could give you a list of the areas of my life where I suffer from this same ailment, but what’s the point? You’re probably already thinking of your own list, aren’t you? I don’t know about you but my life is crazy enough with work, family, sports, recreational activities, traveling (OK, i know this one isa fun one but still stressful sometimes), so why would we add additional stress or frustration by wanting to control things that are most definitely outside of the realms of what can be controlled?
It seems like wasted energy and I very often tell my kids when they say they are stressed about school work, sports, friends, and they are worrying about how things will turn out, that there’s no point in worrying about what we can’t control – I get it, I can see it in others and offer them advice better than I can do it myself. Logically it makes sense that energy wasted worrying about these things is truly just wasted, but I am guessing I’m not the only one that does it, am I?
Sometimes I feel enlightened and can handle it all, but other times I let silly stuff get me down. The one thing that I have found that has helped me navigate this life as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend and business professional is to cut myself some slack. Knowing it’s OK to not get everything right 100% of the time has actually released a huge burden from me. I used to beat myself up for feeling sad, angry, or frustrated and then over-think how I reacted to situations, how I treated people etc., which then led to beating myself up for not handling things great – a vicious cycle.
So, as we are now “officially” into Spring, I wanted to say to myself and to anyone out there that can relate, it’s OK if the Spring you want doesn’t arrive exactly when you think it should, it’s OK that you might not be happy about everything all the time and mostly, it’s OK, in fact, it’s more than OK to be YOU! We can’t change the past, but we can certainly decide how we are going to be in the present, so why worry about old things & things to come, when if we focus more on finding some joy in where we are right now, even if that isn’t perfect, how much more happy and calm would your life be?
As a tribute to those things I can’t control – the pictures in this post are me feeling OK with wearing a jacket and there being snow on the ground…! You can shop this look and similar by clicking the links below…
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